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Gay Life – The Paulinator: Coffee, Tea or Me

Posted Wednesday, May 13th, 2009 at 12:06 pm by paul in Social Bees. More in 10019


After months of crushing big time on Hot Bartender the moment of truth finally arrived when we met up for our coffee rendezvous. Though this wasn’t your typical java get together, seeing as neither of us had any coffee. In fact the only coffee related thing that was involved in this “date” was our initial meeting place: Starbucks.

I had clocked out mentally from my job about three hours too early and spent the remainder of my time behind my desk thinking about what conversations we might have. I’ve never seen Hot Bartender outside of the bar (minus our accidental run-in last week on the sidewalk) so this would be a good test to see if we can communicate on a totally sober level.  I’m under the assumption most first dates generally have a bit of awkward silence with both parties attempting to fill the silences with questions about the other person. Our “date” had silences, but they were on the comfortable side. We literally hit the ground running and started our date by walking throughout the city.

Even though we’ve been in each others company for some time, we still played the ‘getting-to-know-you’ game. We actually learned we had a lot in common. In my head I had pictured this larger-than-life experience when Hot Bartender and I finally got together in this capacity. After our experience last night though, I’m thrilled that was not the case because it was so simple and so honest that it make me like him all that much more!

We spent the early evening like a typical couple running errands. My favorite stop along our walk was when we went clothes shopping. I’m hopeful that when he wears the shirt he bought, he’ll think of me. That’s not too much to hope for, right? Well, the evening walk concluded at the bottom of Central Park near Columbus Circle. I could definitely feel the sexual tension increase between the two of us and I even felt like a wonderfully beautiful kiss was about to take place. The moment was truly like a movie, except it didn’t actually happen. I could feel it though, I wanted it to happen, but all that occurred was a gentle kiss on the cheek. You know what though?  I was completely ok with this outcome. As strange as it may sound, I think the overall date was a huge success.

On my subway ride home I thought  “How long should I wait before getting in touch with him to let him know I had a great time? And that I’d very much be interested in doing it again?” Well, I figured what the heck? and as soon as I got home, I sent a text saying I enjoyed our time together and hoped for it to happen again real soon.  A response arrived later that evening concurring my sentiments. Whether or not this means our relationship will go beyond friends, I don’t know. I do know though, for a first date, I couldn’t have asked for a better time or companion!

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