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Gay Life – The Paulinator: Is Three A Crowd?

Posted Monday, October 13th, 2008 at 7:07 pm by paul in Social Bees. More in

Ever since I was a young lad, I always seemed to develop a crush on those that were seemingly unavailable to me. You know, basically I was drawn to the Regina George types, and while I’ve seen the error of my ways and tried to improve upon this, I will say I still find myself attracted to what I can not have.

Take one of my friends, whom we will call JB. JB is in a relationship and has been for quite some time. I like his boyfriend, though I tend to hang out with JB a bit more than with his partner. One night, after several drinks, JB and I ended up meeting up and heading back to my place.

I’ve totally had a crush on JB (obviously since he is attached) and was completely beside myself when the events of this night unfolded. I’m not big on the term ‘homewrecker’ and I would absolutely be devastated if I was in a non-open relationship and my boyfriend hooked up with someone else. I definitely don’t regret that night, but I have to say it was incredibly awkward the next time I saw JB‘s boyfriend. Thankfully, no one would have expected little ol’ me to do something like that! Moving on…

This past weekend I was hanging out with some friends and was introduced to this guy, BG. Well, we were talking and I totally thought he was a great guy. It seemed as though he was into me and I have to say, this was turning out to be quite promising. There was a moment during out conversation where I was introduced to someone else… BG‘s boyfriend! “Really?” was all I could think! How does this happen all the time!?!

Now, a few months back, my co-worker and I went to an HX Mixer at Therapy. It was an interesting mix of gays for 6PM on a Thursday. The size of the crowd almost made it appear to be a late Saturday evening! My coworker and I attempted to mix and mingle until his drink was spilled by this older gentleman. Sure enough this gentleman was kind enough to purchase a new beverage for my coworker and one for himself.

The evening took an interesting turn when my coworker left to attend another function, and I was invited back to this gentleman’s apartment with his boyfriend! This would purely be a drunk hook-up since I wasn’t feeling anything remotely close to a crush, but I couldn’t help but think how open this relationship was. They definitely wanted to share me between the two of them and while I have participated in groups before, I had never been in the middle of a couple.

I can’t remember when it happened, but at a point I had to stop. The fact that they were about to get married in a few months and here I was in the middle of these two men, it all felt weird to me. I thanked them for their hospitality and quickly exited their apartment! I wonder if I had felt anything for either of them, if I would have spent the night… hmmm, who knows!

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